Love. It's something that we as a whole have idealized and have a bloated expectation of its scope. Don't get me wrong, love can be a wonderful thing. It can also crush your soul into tiny pieces. Sometimes, it does both, and that's kinda the point, I think.
Sometimes, we love so very hard and when it's not received then returned, we can literally burst at the seams with the power of it. It's very painful, but when you come out the other end of it, slowly stitching the pieces back together, you are much stronger and wiser for it. Those stitched seams are stitched with some of the strongest thread. The threads of experience spun from love and hurt, so that when you love again, (and you WILL love again, it is human nature), you will be able to contain it within yourself and give it out in a more mature way.
People talk about falling in love and falling out of love. I think that to say we fall is incorrect. We grow to love people, sometimes very quickly. In the beginning, these feelings are incredibly intense and euphoric. When that euphoria fades, we think we have fallen out of love, when in reality we are just growing into it and losing the blindness to the other persons faults, seeing each other for who you really are and not just the love that you have for each other.
The point being that you can love someone with all your heart, it doesn't mean that you should be together, or that the love that you have is really romantic love, a mistake that I've made and almost lost my best friend over, but that is a completely different blog. You see, loving someone isn't enough. You have to do the work. Relationships are hard. People like to think that if you're 'in love', then everything is sunshine and roses and if something goes wrong, then the other person doesn't love you anymore, which is simply not the case. I find that more often things 'go wrong' because you love each other, because if you didn't love each other, you wouldn't care and would just move on rather than be hurt by it.
I'd also like to address the notion that you can only love one person at a time. I sincerely think that this is false and rather immature, really. I'm not saying that I am an advocate of infidelity, not at all. You can love people without being with them romantically. Love is something that doesn't just go away, and when you truly feel it for someone, you can go months or years without even speaking to them and the feeling will still be there, it doesn't mean that you are meant to be together, or that you are really MEANT to be with anyone particular.
I'll end with this for now: the person that you end up with isn't who you are meant to be with, your one true love, or anything like that. It simply boils down to loving someone truly, being loved by them in return, and respecting each other enough to know that passion does not equal love and that staying together is about way more than the love you feel for each other.
*~*Tabby Marie*~*
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